I can’t say no one warned me, actually so many mothers told me how difficult life with a toddler and a newborn will be.
Yes, yes .. It is as hectic as it sounds!
Today, at every difficulty I face their words -and their facial expressions- as they said those words, everything like a playback in my mind again and again. The truth is, when people tell you all those negative comments about how your new life will be, you should believe them!!
Believe them when they tell you that you will be sleep deprived, craving a shower so badly, praying for some minutes to use the bathroom without an audience – the struggle is real!!-. You will feel that you’ve lost track of date and time between feedings, changing, bathing, and sleep routines.
Before I had my second child I was told all sort of negative feedback on the experience of mothering a toddler and a newborn.. I believed all of them. But I also believed the few positive and empowering things I heard.. and this made all the difference!!
I believed those few who told me so many beautiful things, and they were so right! It is true that your baby will only be a newborn for a very brief period, and I’m glad that I took the time to marvel at this very tiny creation of mine even though I was sleepless, in pain, and clueless about why he is crying at the middle of so many nights.
“You need to believe all the positive and encouraging things that other mothers tell you”
I was told that I will not lose my baby weight after the second baby. Honestly I will not focus on losing weight this early on. Instead I am taking the time to care for my body after all it went through, I am taking the time to marvel again at the amazing ability of a woman’s body to expand and nurture life, then shrink back to normal at its own pace. Every body is left with stretch marks that might not disappear, but they will fade and they won’t matter to you as time passes, take my word for that, as I did take my mom’s word for it! Your stretch marks are just a proof that your body is so amazingly strong to carry a life and bring it to the world.
A friend and colleague told me not to worry about having a second baby, because the second time things are much easier for parents. I keep thinking of that anytime I feel things are getting tough, and for her honesty and positive reassurance I thank her a lot !
To all of you I pass this same reassuring truth, and I wish you a very happy life always!